This introduction on women begins with one of my lessons. It is called, The Source and the Orbit. The essence of the lesson is that in a relationship between two people, one, the orbit, is out in the greater world gathering energy that is returned to the source who transforms this energy into that which bring sustenance to them both. This can be crudely expressed as, “You bring home the bacon, and I’ll fry it up in a pan.”
It’s all about relationship. And how both the Orbit and the Source are needed to sustain this relationship.
While there can be a tussle over who gets to go out into the world and gather and who gets to stay home and do the transforming, there are some fundamentals about the genders that we need to once again become sensitive to.
We can look at two things to increase our understanding: conception and ballet.
In conception, a woman supplies the egg and the man, the sperm. Sperms are the ones on the move. Eggs stay put and have the other half come to her.
It makes the woman the meditative one, becoming a compliment to the man’s busyness.
There are no value judgments that need to be applied to these roles. One is not superior to the other. And both roles have aggravations and consolations.
One expresses silence and motionlessness and the other active aggression.
That is the nature of conception.
Moving on to ballet, when we watch a pas de deux, a dance between two people, most usually a man and a woman, again we witness two very distinct roles being projected. The woman, whose dance steps exhibit a delicacy the man’s can never achieved is balanced by his strength that is used both to show his own display, as it were, but also to literally lift the woman so that her beauty can be revealed in even more gestures. At times, the man is the literal support of the woman. And she is his ornament. The showing of beauty, like a flower opening. She is the bloom, he the stem.
But everything I have written so far has been about a woman in a relationship. These are not my lessons on marriage, but on woman. As she is, on her own.
I introduced the concepts of the Source, the egg, and the ballerina in order to lay a groundwork for the argument that we need to begin to settle down and understand how current justifications of extreme feminism—the argument that a woman is an equal in all things to a man—is harming the natural order of things. It’s like building a factory where a forest once stood and claiming that the factory is just as good as the forest, if not better.
A factory may be good but a forest is necessary for life to be sustained on this planet. The factory and the forest must both exist. Unfortunately we don’t see it that way. The more we build, we believe, the better it is. This way of living, however, ultimately challenges our well being.
And so it is with women. We now have women who cheer when their preborn child is ripped limb-from-limb. Who resent motherhood or serving others in any way. Who feel that exploding their sexuality is what is good for them.
Like building a factory wherever there is a forest, living a ragingly unnatural life ultimately limits the woman’s ability to be truly herself and destructively affects the community around her.
A community needs care. Schools, parks, churches—everything around us needs someone to tend to them. As the years go on, however, and we consider ourselves much too modern to care for anything but ourselves, the world suffers. Children go home to empty houses with no one there to help them with their homework or talk to them about their day. Women boast about how they never cook, only eat take-out food or meals that only need to be heated up to be presentable.
The concept of beauty for today’s woman is shoved at us in the extremes: extremely garish or extremely ugly. Fat is now supposed to be accepted as beautiful. And that it’s even a healthy choice for the woman. In spite of its serious effects on the woman in many ways.
Graciousness is seen as a sign of weakness or stupidity. Shouting obscenities and being generally rude and disrespectful to others is now the new “cool.” If you care about how you look and behave, then you are to be crushed out of existence.
Children appear to be rootless and confused, looking for the comfort of association in groups that may very well commit crimes.
Women are the anchors in our society. Or they are designed to be. They supply stability in chaos. Clarity in turmoil. Solace in grief.
Our culture turns its back on those values. It is up to us to begin to restore them to the world.